I haven’t bought groceries in over a month because my anxiety won’t let me.
Every time I try to tell myself it’s time to buy groceries I can’t get myself around to it. My anxiety tells me that spending money on that is a waste, that I should save it in case of an emergency. Last week I got really sick because I haven’t been eating more than some chips or some crackers here and there. I had to take off of work for two days. Which of course makes everything worse because now I have two fewer days of money. Finances have always been a trigger for my anxiety. It’s just never been like this before. I’ve been stealing food from my roommate and I feel so guilty. I just can’t come around to spending money. I would appreciate any advice or support. This is really a tough time for me. Thank you guys.
by sally at 2018-11-19T17:13:24
My dream is to make a mobile (or web) app that accommodates tight budgets and prevents wasting food. I’ll try to keep your post in mind as I design it. :) But until then, I think everyone here has suggested some kind of budgeting, planning, and tools to help. I don’t know what meal/food services are in your area, but I had a friend get free food from an “expired food drive”. It sounds gross, but she’s still alive at least. She also mentioned that mold has an interesting taste.
by chris at 2018-11-19T17:31:37
I consistently remind myself that what I’m doing is making me feel far worse. It takes a lot of time for me. But I’ve concurred some pretty big barriers with this frame of mind. This includes anything from meeting a new person for the first time, to spending some money to survive. I’m sure there’s other better words in this thread. But I just wanted to give something that helps me along this crazy ****ing ride we call Anxiety and Depression.
by jessica at 2018-11-19T17:31:24
One small thing, if you’re not feeding yourself, your brain can’t function properly (seriously, the nutrients your brain receives when your body is being deprived of food are sub-standard and legitimately affect neural function) and reality can become distorted. Anxiety will be heightened, and negative automatic thoughts will be much harder to control. It’s really important when battling any kind of anxiety that you are managing your overall health and well-being, or else the battle to fight off overwhelming anxiety becomes exponentially more difficult. Eat a good meal, rest a minute, then tackle making a food budget and meal plan. A hungry brain is a nervous brain!
by jordan at 2018-11-19T17:31:13
I'm currently broke, I can barely afford the cost of my living and food. I know that it's terrible for me but I have been buying the cheapest foods possible like $0.25 ramen & burritos because they are cheap and I can get a ton of it without spending a lot of money. I plan to start getting healthier food once I start making more money, but for now I have that to keep me from going hungry. I hope that you are able to figure something out, another thing you might try is talking to your roommate about splitting the cost of groceries and which would save you money and possibly make it so that you wouldn't have to shop as they could do the shopping and you could pay them. I hope you are able to find a way to be comfortable getting more food, good luck!
by marcus at 2018-11-19T17:31:01
I used to get really bad financial anxiety. I've easily read hundreds of articles on the topic and at least a few books. Groceries are probably my biggest expense. Not going to the grocery store is definitely a way to save, but you need food to live. Go with a list and a calculator if you're on a really tight budget. Meal planning will help. If you want foods that are not parishable just Google pantry recipes or something similar. I've used pepperplate to collect recipes and meal plan. It'll even make a grocery list for you. Or you could Google pre-made meal plans. Keep in mind: the more prepackaged you buy the more expensive. If you go for fresh always buy in season foods.
by lilly at 2018-11-19T17:30:53
I have financial anxiety (among others) which makes me kind of a Scrooge come Christmas time (afraid to spend too much on gifts in case I need the money). However, food, unlike gifts, is necessary. I saw that someone posted a suggestion on coupons and that's a great idea! You can also search for clearance and close out items (the Kroger in my area has closeout items for a steal). Maybe start with things that you know are cheap like ramen, bananas and eggs. Ramen with a fried egg thrown in is actually pretty good BTW. And a tub of off-brand butter is all you need for some frying. Work your way up to cheap bread and off-brand sandwich meat. Peanut butter can be a little pricey but think of all the sandwiches you can get out of one jar! Worth! You might try budgeting every pay period so you know exactly how much money you have. Make sure you don't go over your budget and find good deals! I find that, while spending money isn't a good feeling, getting a great deal on something is awesome! The other day I got some olive oil mayo for just over a dollar! Pretty damn delicious and seems to be a bit healthier than regular mayo. Some things at the grocery store are just too damn expensive (I'm looking at you bacon). And if you aren't comfortable in paying for it, don't get it. There are cheap ways to get the nutrients you need. I get Poptarts because one, I love them and two, cereal is expensive and cuts the roof of my mouth. You won't hurt me twice, cereal! As for bacon, I love it but I rarely get it. It's pricey and doesn't keep long. That's something else you can keep in mind! Get canned soups and veggies because they keep longer and you won't feel bad if you don't eat it right away (I hate wasting food more than spending money to be honest). I hope this is helpful. Sorry for the long comment.
by jessica at 2018-11-19T17:30:42
You could try growing some of your own food to supplement the cost and maybe that will help you justify buying supplemental ingredients to make meals and also give you a fun hobby to quiet your mind?
by chris at 2018-11-19T17:30:31
Proper nutrition is very important my friend. Health is wealth! There's nothing better to spend money on other than your own health. I wish you the best of luck and hope that you start taking care of yourself.
by jake at 2018-11-19T17:30:24
I use a delivery service and I've found that even with the delivery fee and somewhat inflated prices, I actually spend much less on groceries and eat much more healthy because there are no impulse purchases. It's also nice because if I know I have $x.xx available for groceries in a given week, I can play around with my meal planning and edit the cart accordingly. It might be kind of empowering for you to be able to identify an amount you are comfortable spending and then practice shopping from the app to figure out what works for you and how much nutrition you can pack into a budget that's within your comfort zone. If the financial aspect is an issue, don't forget to account for the cost of healthcare and lost wages if you don't stay healthy. Sticking to a reasonable and healthy grocery budge is incredibly financially responsible!
by jordan at 2018-11-19T17:30:10
I suffer from agoraphobia at times and grocery delivery services have really helped me out during bad times. Even the grocery pickup at WalMart can be a lot easier than trying to make it to the store
by marcus at 2018-11-19T17:30
It takes quite some time to die of starvation, there's anorexic people that look like skin and bones and have done so for years. The fact that you got sick so you had to stay at home is a warning that it's getting high time to fix it, besides, you loose more money by not eating enough if it makes you sick so you can't work. I have had really high anxiety connected to spending money in periods, thankfully not connected to all spending, food is usually fine. It's really hard to go against anxiety, but eating right makes it easier to handle emotions too. Maybe try and channel the anxiety into choosing good, cheap food from cheaper stores, cook yourself and maybe even be on the lookout for coupons (though I think the last one easy can get out of hand if you suffer from anxiety).
by lilly at 2018-11-19T17:29:51
Spending money foolishly is a waste but you NEED food for survival, this goes into the necessity category. Think about it this way, would you rather spend money and buy yourself healthy/decent food every few weeks or would you rather stick to barely any food, get sick and spend a bunch on medical bills/medication You can always try to look at coupons. Go to places like Target/Walmart if you are in the US, they still sell food there but it's cheaper than at most grocery stores. Consider buying stuff to cook/bake meals that you can freeze the leftovers of for later. All things I do to save money on food.
by john at 2018-11-19T17:29:36